Am I a Control Freak?

Some people may have had the accusation "Your a control freak". These questions may answer that question.

• I must be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others.

• I value other’s approval of my thinking, feelings and behaviors over my own.

• I agree with others so they will like me.

• I focus my attention on protecting others, even from themselves.

• I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.

• I keep score of "good deeds and favors," becoming very hurt when they are not repaid.

• I am very skilled at guessing how other people are feeling.

• I can anticipate others’ needs and desire, meeting them before they are asked to be met.

• I become resentful when others will not let me help them.

• I am calm and efficient in other people’s crisis situations.

• I feel good about myself only when I am helping others.

• I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.

• I put aside my own interests and concerns in order to do what others want.

• I ask for help and nurturing only when I am ill, and then reluctantly.

• I cannot tolerate seeing others in pain.

• I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.

• I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.

• I attempt to convince others of how they "truly" think and "should" feel.

• I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others.

If you answered Yes to several of these questions you may need to look at your style of relating to others.

See also;

• ABC's of Recovery
• The Promises of Recovery from Addictiveness
• Al-Anon May be able to help

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